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  • Have talked with him yesterday

    2008-3-04

    I talked with him last night, about the future, about how to deal with the relatiinship with his parents.He said he never expected I could treat his parents as my own parents, because the different cultures between the urban family and the country family. He said he only hope me to respect his parents, and make them feel warm when they come to our home in the future.

    I should feel comfortable?? but you know I couldn't, even that was what I want him to say. I felt I have hurt his parents, and I did something wrong...What did I do? I just followed my heart...I could't get along with his parents well...I couldn't feel comfortable when I see their behaveing.....that's the truth.

    A girl, my colleague, she just lost his love, so we will celebrate it together tomorrow evening...I just got her invitation.... I will also tell them my worries, it will be a good time for us...

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  • My worries

    2008-3-03

    I planned to marry my bf recently, but I have to commit there are some worries to me .

     

    My bf came from  the countryside, so of course has a country parents. I went to his parents’ house several times before, and you know it was just the traditional country house… Everything is not as clean as in the city, his parents were very strange to me….everything is strange to me. There are really some problems made me worried.

    1.       They may want to live with us in the future.

    Although they didn’t say that clearly to me, I could feel it. My bf always express his parents’ admiration for other relatives who live with their son and son’s wife in big city.

    You know the life style are totally different between me and his parents. We will spend money in the weekend for dining outside, travelling nearby, shopping, going to cinema….but their family only spend less than 200 USD every year for living….I couldn’t image what will be their reaction when they saw I bought 3 kinds of perfume once, and each price is more than 100 USD….

     

    2.       They want us to have babes soon, as soon as we become married, and only could have son.

    Oh shit, they want us to marry soon, as soon as we get married. But we don’t want it at least in 5 years. We have our own career, and work very hard at the moment, and we want to enjoy the life since we have studied and worked for a long time, but his parents want babe….They want only son, no daughter, that’s also the shit traditional thoughts….

     

    3.       They want to take care of our kid for us in the future….

    Oh my god, it is another terrible idea!!! How can a country grand parents take care of  my kid in the future( if I have one day) !!!! Are they crazy !!! But in their opinion, our kid will be theirs, because of the traditional thoughts. Maybe the kid is also my bf’s ,but of course not mine….because the kid should belong to the man and the man’s family!!!!!

     

    Dear friends, I have already be bothered nearly crazy, how can such terrible and funny thoughts come??? How can I accept??  Do you think I am too selfish....

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  • An unexpected bonus from my ex-company

    2008-3-03

    I quit from my ex company since last Auguest, and never contacted with the leaders and managers there since I quit. But recently I got an email from the director, he told me I got the bonus of last year, that about 2000 USD.

    Oh I was surprised! As I knoew there was not possible to get the bonus when the staff left, moreover I have left more than 6 months....

    I called my ex manager, and talked with her for a while, of course I asked her why I could get the bonus since I have left for a long time.

    She told me they were touching when they saw my been responsible for ex job. I handed over all my job to the new one carefully, and even the last day I worked there, I handled everything responsibly myself....

    I thanked my ex boss, but I am not sure why it should be compensated, because I did things which I needed to do, I was sad when I left the ex company, because I have already built the good relationship with the colleagues, my vendors... and that was my first job in my life, so had the special feelings...

    Anyway, I am happy with my unlooked-for bonus, I will buy myself pretty clothing, a LV bag... :)

     

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  • Difference between Chinese and Swiss

    2008-2-19

    During the coffee time after lunch, I talked with one of my colleagues, who came from Swiss. It was really interesting to realize how the different it is about the thoughts between Chiense and Swiss.

    1. Treatment to parents.

    You may used to take it as responsibility to take care of parents when they are going to be old, women also think it is their duty to take care of everything of her husband's parents, should live together, give them money, take care of everything of them.....

    But in Swiss, there always are some special place for the old persons. It is hard to understand to live with the old people and take care of them, because that should be done by the special persons in those places...People will go there to see their parents regularly with some presents, it's the same way to treat man's parents and the woman's parents.

    2. About marriage.

    In China you may think it is misery if someone ever been divorced. It will affect her( or him) for a long time, even forever.  

    Situation in Swiss: About 80% people have more than 1 times marriges. They think it is very normal to be divorced, and being divorced will not affect the next marriages' quality.  

     

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  • One of my new colleagues

    2008-2-19

    I heard of something about this new colleague, all from beautiful girls. They talked about him with anger and impatience. He is the recruiter of our company, of course persons who want to enjoin us have to pass the interview with him.

    When the beautiful girls joined our company successfully  by passing the interview with him, something will happens with these girls. He will finally expose his salacious nature, will touch these girl by talking about some official matters, say some lewd words sometimes...

    Of course I also couldn't avoid being touched firstly when I joined this company, especially when our annual party, I was the hostess (MC) then, I drunk a little during the dining time, he touched my shoulder for quite a long time asked me :are you ok?? I tried to refuse, and replied without emotion: yes, I am fine... Later he standed on the stage, asked me to sing a song with him, I just waved my hands showed I disagreed, then ignored all what happened on the stage....

    Maybe I made him not pleased, but I am not fearful. Acutally I regard this job importantly, but I will not ask for staying by selling my feelings, my dignity and my heart...

     

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  • About Korean man

    2008-2-14

    Some Chinese girls like Korean men due to the Korean beautiful dramas, I was the fan of the Korean drama & Korean man also. But please realize the truth, it is not like what they performed in the dramas....Below is the bloody example...

    One of my friends fell in love with a Korean man seriously. After dated for a long time, he told her, he had 2 kids and of course in the marriage!! She shouted angrily: why you chased me crazily even you had a wife!! why you cheated me!!! The man answered: oh you never asked me if I had a wife and kids so it was not my fault....I will be divorce, please wait for me...

    I guessed my friend must was crazy, she was out of control that moment, she decided to wait for him till he become divorced. Since then, she cried everyday every night, talked about her story to all of her friends and her relatives...But how silly she was, he only loved her body....When he got back to Korea, he never contacted with her....

    When they were dating...they slept together...He never agreed to use condom cause he said he not feeling good with it...She always took the medicine to avoid being pregnant. She told me she felt very bad every time she took such medicine....but he never changed in any point is he wants... 

    You think it is terrible ?? Oh no it is not finished yet after about 1 year, she built a relathinship with a nice man, and decided to marry him. Someday the Korean man appeared and talked about some words with regrets andf  tears, such as:" you are the most innocent girl I had ever known, and it was the most regret thing that I had left from you; you are everything I need, you are all I love...please give me a chance to cherish you....." such shits!!  My friend refused : I will never believe you, please say to other girls! I will be married,sorry...

    Guess what? he cheated her pass word of her msn and email, and talked with her fiance : " she is a bitch...she cheated you...she never love you...she did sex with me everyday " then sent pics of her...some sexy pics they took together before....Her fiance left from her after that....

    That's the story she told me during this Chinese new year...she talked about it with tears....I couldn't say anything but angery too much....I wish he die...I wish he get the most cruel revenge on himself.....

    Girls please clear your eyes...never fall in love with someone easily...never love Korean man due to the faked dramas....cause it is not true.

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  • Hi I am back

    2008-2-13

    Hi everyone, sorry I disappeared for a long time, and I am very happy to come back here with you....

    I had a very nice Chinese new year, it was terrific new year with all of my relatives and friends.

    I just came back to Shanghai 2 days ago, and started to work this morning. I felt like being filled with energy, oh I think we really need holidays to relax regularly:)

    To talk about something about my new job ....ok....

    Since I joined the foreign company in Shanghai, and many colleagues are blue eyes and speak English including my boss( Finland man), and the Chinese colleagues almostly greduated from Europe or Oceania as the MBA, they are smart and excellent, at least they are excellent in English....I felt little bit stressful...:(  I looked like little bit stupid sometimes...When I heared carefully words by words what my boss talked, I found I still couldn't get all what he talked about :(  What can I do...... :(  I found it is not so useful just study the English words everyday....

    What I am thinking about now is only work and my future in career...I would like to be deaf when my mother askedme to marry and have babe....I don't know what will happen in the future...but one thing is for sure that I will keep studying...I will cherish the opportunity ....I will not give up myself no matter what happen....

    Anyway,Good luck for all of you.....and wish we could communicate each other as before.....I am back

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  • Something about my BF( Fiance)

    2008-1-09

    It's the time for introduce my Fiance --Xiao Bai, and intended to show Monica a different relationship from her.

    We got along each other for 5 years. In the 5 years, I have experienced the studying for Master degree, and work in another province for 2 years. There are some stories between us, and also the some of  reasons why we didn't break up even we have separated for 2 years.

    I am the Buddhist, and I had a necklace of a Buddha when I was studdying for the Master degree. When I went to the WC, my necklace with a figure of Buddhist dropped in the bottom of the pipes of urinal in the W.C. ( forgive my poor English, don't know how to explain it well: there is just the place for our pissing).

    I was crying seriously, not because the necklace was made by golden,but it was a figure of buddhist...Guess what happened?? Yes... He helped me....He is a person very neaty, hates the dirt very much. But he put his arm into the pipe of urinal ( because it was too confined, and it was failed when tried with the hook because the necklace has broken, couldn't got up by hook, so only could done with arm). He Bend himself over of the urinal, put all of his left arm in, after about 40 minutes, he got back my necklace.....Of course he rush to have bath immediately after picked it back for me.......

    Another thing happened after I went to Guangdong for working while he was studying for his doctor degree in Heilongjiang. You know the distance: 5 hours by airplane, 38 hours by train.we were both poor that moment since I just entered work, and he was a student. Once he helped his teacher for a project, he got 10,000RNB for rewards. He bought a train ticket for going to see me(sit ticket dont have a bed for nearly 40 hours because he wanted to save money for me), and spent the money for travalling with me, and bought me many clothes and little things I like, then left himself several hundred yuan for living, and the ticket for going back (sit only still, 40 hours), then gave all the left money to me, because he said I may need money more........When nearly Chinese new year, he bought the airplan ticket for me but he sitted back to his hometown still...........

    My friends said, it is hard to find someone love you don't mind himself.... I also couldn't understand it ....these 5 years... he treated me as the first day we met...He accompany me for shopping every week, he said there is not more happy things for him than seeing me happy.....He will buy everything I like in his ability if it makes me happy...If there is delicous food, he will not eat much after I have enough....He will not be relax and satisfy if I am depressed or frustrated from work or something.....

    Maybe there are different sorts of man..and different sorts of relationships, for my Fiance, he loves me more than himselve....He never changed in the 5 years....We get along each other almost of the time after work, and it works well so far.......

     

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  • Go on?? or leave away!!

    2008-1-09

    Yesterday I talked with Xiao bai about my failure on an important something. I found something from our talking and hope to share with friends here.

    I believe most of persons greaduated from uni. experienced some period very hard. In that period they couldn't be satisfy about the present job and position;they couldn't be satisfy about the attitude others treated them; they would be very painful for trying change the job....they couldn't feel great when they found they do same job with a person greaducated from college or just high middle school; even they could feel so frustrated when they found their boss came from the worse uni. than them but asking them to do lots of things they don't like.... They must asking the God: Why ?? Why I am so unlucky?? I have paid too much, and experienced the hardest period have got the best uni. degree. Why I should be the same or lower than other guys??? Why others so lucky ??

    Yes, that was the period I have experienced...I greduated from one of the best uni. in CHina, I entered one of the best company in China after greduated, but now I changed job, and I failed on something....I am still frustrated.... I still think the world is not fair....I still think I am so unlucky.....

    Ok...let me tell what we were wrong....totally wrong....

    Dear friends, everything need a long process to accumulate, so that we could get the treature of life. Everyone knows it, but they don't realize we have to make it as Zero after we were successful in one period, the success in one period is the beginning of process for next goal. for example: after we were successful greduated from uni. we must tell us it is the beginning, and it is the zero again and forget all the remarkable things in uni.  We should try our best again to accumulate during the work, so that we could have the right to ask the fate then. So I knew I was wrong have asked too much before I accumulate enough. I haven't the right now, but it is not late have realized it of course.

    This moment we have to deiced: Go on ?? or leave alway !! in the fate game!!! Never complain.................

     

     

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  • How much we can be depressed?

    2008-1-07

    How much we can be depressed....

    I was waiting for one long time, but I think this moment it means I was failed....I lost a chance to change my life a little......

    As I said I am the butterfly without wings....I don't think there is still meaningful for me to go on living.....Why there is meaningful??? I always lost what I could have....I always lost my beautiful dreams.....

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